For the chilren

Okay, Perhaps some day I am planning on having children. Not exactly soon but perhaps one day. Of course if it comes to turn I can't have children the natural way, unsure if I will adopt. I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it. So after living at least 10 good years in the real world. I don't count any time until after I graduated high school as nothing but just a test run or perhaps just a stepping stone to the real world. So I have experienced some things not a lot but hopefully enough I can explain to my children to help better them on their issues and things to watch out for. I am writing it now because when I have children I won't even remember half the things I want to say or whatever. Oh these are just my ideas. I have not conferred with the wife for a couple of reasons. 1(we have no kids so need to talk right now. We have at least 7 years). 2(these are my ideas and subject to change as the world does and as I do).

So here we go. I think I will do these in number format and if I want to say more do that. Don't ask why its just what I want to do.

1. The Truth.
Around the time my child or children turn I think 7 or 8. I don't know if they do it anymore during school about the changing booklet and handout. But if they do then tell them the truth about the body and what will happen and expect to happen. The truth about sex and other things. Don't what to lie to kids about something this huge. Maybe Santa but not sex

2. Sex.
Sure I said it number one. But number two is everything. Don't lie and say when a man and a women love each other very much blah blah blah. Tell me sometimes its a man and a man, man and a women, a women and a women. Tell them sometimes its not love just lust. Sometimes its for revenge and sometimes for love. Other times its darker(will discuss in another number.)

3. Protection, Protection.
Advised if they must have sex, personally would like to wait until marriage but I will not grind that into their brains. They can make their own decision. I just want when they do they are protected. No need on getting pregnant if can avoid. Of course will also let them know some protection will not prevent you from getting an STD, so tell them about that.

4. No means no.
Doesn't seem to hard. If I have a son tell him when a women says no, she means no and pack up your stuff and leave or take her home or what. His number should be 0. if I have a daughter try to tell her what to watch for. Which is being in a room with a bunch of guys and your friend left. Use the buddy system it works. True story, most guys won't do anything if another girl around, most guys need her alone. It's like the extra girl is kryptonite to males.If you friends wants to go in the back with her guy friend and leave you in a room with guys you don't know. Either leave the place or tell the friend you are staying with her or leaving together. If it does happen then try to fight back if can't then when over beat the crap out of him, if you are unable. If not please try to tell somebody, even if you don't They should be able to come to me about this issue, but hey you never know. If an adult and you are a child, see above and hopefully will be able to talk to me about it.

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Also I guess 4a. Where you At?
I will tell me children to do that. That's right just like the commercials. I need to know where you are. Not just me but other people. If you are about to get into a cab. Call someone to let them know and call again after you get out. And again when made into your house/or where you are staying that night. No matter what happens tell the truth. There is always someone who will believe you. Even if somehow I don't.

5. Strippers, Prostitutes, Brothels, oh My.
Not much to say on this. Just to let them know they exist. Want to be educated but won't like drop them off to see what happens. We can just watch an HBO documentary.

6. What's That Feeling?
Let them know if there is someone you don't trust or somewhere you don't trust. Leave. Unable to leave please call me and I will find a way to get you even if you are in a different state. Also keep your drink with you. If unsure about the guy/girl don't trust the drink in his hand and get your own. If he/she says you put it here, grad a new one. Date Rape type drugs still exist.

7. Big Brother?
Not in someone watching you but in the fact that I will be watching you. Not in the incest or leering sort of way. But as you grow , watching what sites you visit, where you go. GPS tracking on the car, keyboard mapping on the computer but hopefully the children won't need until 12 or older. No need if having a phone or computer until 16 at least. Before then they can't drive or go anywhere without permission. So basically should only be going to school and home, rinse wash repeat.

8. The Lies told.
Basically will them know lies both sexes uses to try to get the other to do a sexual experience. If I have a daughter or son both parents will talk together about the excuses the other uses or says for that. So that way they will be prepared.

9.Sexual Favors.
This is when a person will try to help the person in return for certain favors. Seem pretty easy but I don't want to leave anything out.

10. statutory rape
Let them know about it, the ages and the reason. Also be carefully because a mother or a father can claim this even if nothing happens. So need to be carefully about that one.

I hope this is all, it seems like a lot but I had a lot to say. If more needs to be added, I will do that but until now this is what I have.